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Bullies

Bullies

There are still lots of those kids out there, carrying old adolescent fears of discovery in middle-aged bodies. Fears that don’t end like a Teams call when we fire up the laptop to start a new day.

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You Can’t Be Gay…

You Can’t Be Gay…

“You can’t be #gay because X,” where X equals: You don’t act gay You don’t dress gay You dated girls in college You always wanted a family You were in a fraternity A slivered sampling of the nicer responses to #comingout. At least to my coming out back in the...

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Gay and Christian

Gay and Christian

We’re nearing the end of #holyweek2023, which ends with the most important liturgy of the year in the #christian church: the Great Vigil of Easter. There are variations on this theme. I’m Episcopalian. We jokingly refer to ourselves as Catholic Lite. Catholics do it a...

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The Gay Glass Ceiling

The Gay Glass Ceiling

This is an excerpt from my book that’s coming out on June 6th, “Opening the Corporate Closet.” This is about a friend of mine whose work environment was quite different to my own, yet as an external client server, I understood all too well the choices he was facing as a gay man.

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Joanne

Joanne

My aspirational life with Joanne was key to my evolving straight persona, out of junior high and on to high school, college and beyond. She embodied the perfection of my future life. Wanting to marry my Joanne felt normal. I wasn’t suppressing anything since I wasn’t gay anyway.

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Closeted LGBTQ at Work

Closeted LGBTQ at Work

Here’s a data point that fascinates and saddens me in equal parts. According to @Chris Kolmar in his article 75+ Must-Know LGBTQ+ Workplace Discrimination Statistics [2023]: Rates and Trends – Zippia, 46% of LGBTQ+ workers report they remain closeted at work. One of...

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