When I ask LGBTQ coaching clients this question, the responses provide a window to the individual’s relationship between their sexual orientation and their careers.
In my life, I finally exorcized my gay decision diamonds, those microsecond choices we make about what we share with others. “How was your weekend?” turns into a multi-swimlane process map on how a closeted person answers an innocuous question.
Have I opened up to this person, YES/NO? Is this coworker the one who knows I’m with someone and thinks it’s a “she,” YES/NO? Does my instinct tell me they would be cool with it, YES/NO?
On and on it continued until I chose my answer within a second or two. All that thinking about a simple question. Nope. I don’t miss my gay decision diamonds one bit.
What difference has coming out made in your professional life? What difference have you made to someone else’s life when they came out? What difference could you make?
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Most LGBTQ individuals have chosen to remain invisible during our lives, unlike other minorities. It’s harder to identify someone’s sexuality compared to their race.
This morning, I saw 749 others besides Simon being sworn in. 749 other stories. Who was tempest tost? Who was wretched refuse from their home country’s teeming shores? How brightly does that lamp burn in their eyes and hearts?
There are still lots of those kids out there, carrying old adolescent fears of discovery in middle-aged bodies. Fears that don’t end like a Teams call when we fire up the laptop to start a new day.